You Care Too Much: Free Yourself From Social Anxiety by Carl VernonThe insecurity, worry, self-doubt and social anxiety that come with caring too much about what people think can be overwhelming. Does this mean you should go and live a solitary life in the hills, away from people and the BS that comes with them? No. There is a better way.
From bestselling author Carl Vernon, You Care Too Much is a no-holds-barred wake-up call about what social anxiety really is, how it affects you, and what you can do about it. It will teach you to bring out your new ‘can’t care’ mentality, turning your anxiety and self-doubt into confidence and self-control.
• Discover why you care too much – and why it’s doing you no good.
• Ditch your insecurity and self-consciousness and be yourself.
• Control your need for approval from others.
• Cut out the anxiety, worry and self-doubt others cause you.
• Learn how to spot and deal with toxic people – so you can stop them from walking all over you.
It’s time to find freedom by getting the tools and answers you need to care a lot less about what people think.
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To The People Who Care 'Too Much'
Whether out of obligation or out of a caring heart, more than 65 million adults in the United States take care of an elderly, chronically ill, or disabled loved one. Most of these ailing adults want to continue living at home as they age and their health declines, rather than in an assisted living situation like a nursing home. You might be losing sleep and feeling fatigued or distracted. It could be you find yourself losing your temper easily. All of this might leave you experiencing overwhelm.
It's very human to want to be liked. Isolation is dangerous for our mental health. But if you betray yourself to get people to like you, that causes problems that are at least as bad if not worse. I'll explain why in a moment, but first let's look at some signs that you worry too much what others think about you. You do things you don't want to do and you resent it.
People who think that they are mighty and powerful and who think that they can force you to oblige their wants and in fact demands even if they are contrary to your own needs etc. What you must understand about people who rely on a sense of superiority on their part or obvious signs of you feeling inferior, is that they pull their moves and if you respond by, for example, looking for validation or claiming that you love them or looking for them to be who you hoped for them to be, they realise that you care too much. They interpret a passive response or your seeming positivity and hope even in the face of shady behaviour, as a green light for code red behaviour. This all screams, I care too much. It says, I care so much that I will derive value from my interaction with you and my self-image and future perception and actions will be impacted by you.
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2. Pointing your finger at others:
Do you worry too much what other people think of you? Are you constantly seeking affirmation and approval?
When it comes to how to have healthy self-esteem , it is a lifelong pursuit that involves collecting emotional data from the world around you to create a balanced view of yourself. Unfortunately, sometimes it's possible to get a little bit bogged down in one aspect of developing self-esteem: other people's opinions. You just have to be aware of to what extent you're letting things affect you. Jasmin Terrany, licensed mental health counselor LMHC tells Bustle that healthy self-esteem has three main components: self-respect, self-care, and self-acceptance. Self-care [includes] consistent efforts to take care of your own needs. If you're still figuring out how to feel better about yourself without needing the approval of others, a good first step is to identify what's troubling you in the first place. Here are nine signs your self-esteem is too reliant on others' approval, according to experts.