James Umber (Author of Stop Caring What Others Think)
Stop Caring What Others Think!
We all want to be liked and appreciated for our many talents, our ferocious intelligence, our good nature, our sparkling personality. But when we start to rely on what other people think of us, and we make their opinion pivotal to our success, we get into trouble. We start tailoring our lives to fit the expectations of others, and from there it's a vicious cycle. When we give over our power to others and allow that their impressions to become how we perceived, we lose out on who we really are. Focus on what matters.
Have you ever wondered why we care so much about what other people think of us? For some, this problem can be life crippling. It can become an obsession. We wonder what people will think of our clothes, body, hair style, profile pic, car, presentation, voice, etc. You might not even be fully aware that you're doing this. We try to impress each other by saying what we think other people want to hear instead of letting our inner authentic voice guide us.
Older. And, Wiser?
We're all guilty. Every day from the moment we wake up, we live our lives caring what other people think of us.
We get by. Think about a time when you were extremely anxious — say, before standing up to publicly speak, raising your hand in a big meeting, or even walking through a room of strangers. The reason you felt small and scared and tense is you were worried about social disapproval. A craving for social approval made our ancestors cautious and savvy; thousands of years ago, if the responsibility for the failed hunt fell on your shoulders, your place in the tribe could be threatened. The desire to fit in and the paralyzing fear of being disliked undermine our ability to pursue the lives we want to create.